Adam Conover explains how YouTube ruined everything

Adam Conover explains how YouTube ruined everything. Today, I’m joined by comedian, podcast host, and YouTuber Adam Conover. Adam is a familiar face to anyone who’s spent time on the internet. He got his start, like so many successful comedy writers, at CollegeHumor back in the day. That was before transitioning into cable TV with Adam Ruins Everything, then onto Netflix, and […]

What happened

Now, just as twentysomethings are catching up, it’s overIn the 2025 hit Netflix show Adolescence, DI Luke Bascombe’s 13-year-old son, Adam, has to explain to his father the way his generation use heart emojis. “Red means love, purple: horny, yellow: ‘I’m interested, are you interested? ’, pink: ‘I’m interested but not in sex,’ orange: ‘You’re going to be fine,’” he explains. Everything has a meaning. ”And those meanings are constantly evolving. This use of the wilting rose (also known as wilting/wilted flower or dead rose) is an example of what the American linguist Adam Aleksic refers to as a “forced emoji” – when an emoji has a meaning consciously projected on to it, rather than being used intuitively.

“There’s a constant cycle of which emojis are popular,” Aleksic explains. Skip to main contentSkip to navigation Composite: Guardian DesignView image in fullscreen Composite: Guardian DesignThe wilting rose emoji: what its rise and fall tells us about gen AlphaIt was the fastest-growing emoji in 2025 – but if you’re older than 16, it has probably passed you by. Take the skull (💀), for example, which has come to be used as a reaction for finding something funny – a visual shorthand for the slang phrase: “I’m dead. ” Or the wilting rose (🥀) which was, according to Google data analysed by the New York Times, the fastest-growing emoji in terms of popularity in 2025 – and was the 93rd most used.

The wider picture

That the previously obscure wilting rose is now in the top 100 emojis is thanks to generation Alpha (those born between 2010 and 2024), who use it in place of the broken heart emoji (💔) to signify sadness, or ironically, to suggest mock-heartbreak. He thinks the start of the wilting rose’s popularity among gen Alpha can be traced back to JuggTok, a community of meme accounts on TikTok that focus on ironic humour. In early 2025, videos started to appear stating that the broken heart emoji was becoming overused and “mainstream”, suggesting the wilting rose as an alternative.

Using the ones that haven’t yet gone mainstream “signals your in-group awareness of which joke is currently popular”. Using emojis “naively” – in other words, the way most over-30s use them, eg a laughing face to express laughter – is a reason for others to make fun of you. “At this point, it’s uncool to even use the skull emoji,” he says. Aleksic makes a comparison to the the film Mean Girls, in which high schooler Gretchen tries to make “fetch” the new cool slang term, only to be told by the school’s queen bee, Regina George, to “stop trying to make ‘fetch’ happen”.

In fact, since the wilting rose’s spike in popularity, some have tried to replace it with the dead battery emoji (🪫) – but it doesn’t seem to have had the same staying power as the wilting rose.

What has been reported

That one has probably endured, says Aleksic, because “there is something intuitive about it. The rose was supposed to be a symbol of something good, and then it wilts – there’s a feeling you can express in that. ”But the way we communicate is changing so quickly that emojis in general might be losing their appeal among young people, says Aleksic. “Stickers are becoming more popular overall,” he says, predicting that “there could be a shift away from these preset icons that the apps hand you, and more toward reaction images”.

Whether it’s slang terms, emojis or stickers, the way teenagers communicate will always have hidden meanings – some more sinister than others, as viewers of Adolescence learned. But it is the secrecy or exclusivity that makes them cool: no doubt now the wilting rose’s use has been documented in the Merriam-Webster dictionary, it will fade (wilt? ) into insignificance as rapidly as it was propelled into popularity. “You’re not supposed to know, as a parent, which emoji is popular right now,” Aleksic says.

“As soon as your mom finds out about the wilting rose emoji, you’ve got to move on. ”Explore more on these topicsEmojisSocial mediaYoung peopleSocial etiquettefeaturesShareReuse this contentMost viewedMost viewed