Furious fans, peeved parents and side gigs: Why would anyone want to be a ref?
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Angry parents and the love of the game"Thirteen, fourteen [years old], and you get some side cash, some money," said MLS referee Lorenzo Hernandez with a laugh about his early forays into refereeing. "Side gigs and rooting for refsAccording to Hernandez, the starting salary for full-time referees within MLS is $85,000. From the youth level to the professional ranks, it isn't out of the ordinary for fans to voice their displeasure with jeers and taunts aimed at match officials.
Officials, tasked with regulating the 90 minutes, are well aware that this isn't the first or last time they'll be the target of angry fans. The margins — when you see offside runs and penalty kicks and everything like that — are so slim, and it's just going to continue to get slimmer. "Of course, doing so meant dealing with the aggravations of parents despite so many of these officials being kids themselves. "Well, this kind of stinks," he remembers thinking after parents accosted him.
The wider picture
"I think that support enables you and allows you to feel more comfortable in situations like that," Hernandez said when asked if he had any difficulties with parents at the youth level. But that doesn't mean the ref you're watching every weekend doesn't also have a side hustle — whether it's for fun or out of necessity. I'm definitely rooting for them because obviously I want to see my colleagues succeed. "It's not just people who show up on the weekends and get s— on by fans all the time," Beckvermit said.
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Over the weekend, the ever-present and ubiquitous "ref, you suck" chant was heard in MLS stadiums. A cacophony of vitriol has been directed at the profession from the red half of Manchester after the Premier League's referees' body admitted that Manchester City's lone goal in their 1-0 win over Manchester United shouldn't have stood. "I wish people could see the game through our lens," he said to ESPN. "This game continues to get faster, these players continue to get better, more technical.
"It's truly incredible to watch because it's an art form. "Although they don't have the same spotlight as players, officials work just as hard as the superstars with whom they share the pitch. Needing to combine high levels of mental and physical performance, referees make split-second decisions while keeping pace with the players themselves.
What happens next
Knowing full well that they won't be the focus of adoration for supporters, referees carry on as stewards for the beautiful game. "Inspired by his father who was also an official, Hernandez recognized that there was another avenue into soccer through becoming a referee. The same could be said for Balcer who, like Hernandez, found a passion in officiating after learning he could become certified for youth games when he was 12. I thought it was cool that I could come home on a Saturday and my mom would bring me to the park and stick around, be there for three hours, and I'd come home with 60 bucks," Balcer said.
"This is an income, but also something I love doing. . . Balcer learned early on that this line of work wasn't for the fainthearted. In a 2017 survey from the National Association of Sports Officials, the behavior of adults at youth games led to more than 75% of high school referees quitting.